Hey man,
I know that moment.
You wake up one Tuesday morning, look in the mirror, and for a split second, you don't recognize the man staring back.
Maybe you've experienced one or more of life's dynamic changes - relationships, career, stages of fatherhood - and it rocked your core.
Me too, I've been there.
All of them.
On paper, you’re fine. Maybe even "successful." You’ve navigated the career, raised the kids, paid the mortgage.
You followed the script.
You did the "right things."
But somewhere along the way—between the promotions, the parenting, the life changes, and the noise—you lost the most important thing of all.
You lost You.
It’s not a midlife crisis. It’s an Identity Crisis.
- You feel untethered.
- You feel invisible.
- You feel like you’re just... drifting.
You might be asking yourself:
"Is this it?"
"Who am I now that the kids don't need me every day?"
"Who am I without the big title?"
"What is my purpose for the next 20 years?"
These are the questions that keep you awake at 3 AM. And they are the questions most men never say out loud.
The Truth About "The Drift"
Society tells us that by 45 or 50, we should have it all figured out.
But the truth is, this is often the most disorienting season of a man's life.
The roles you played for decades—Provider, Protector, Climber—are shifting.
And without a clear sense of who you are in this new season, it’s easy to feel like you’re just running out the clock.
But here is the good news:
You are not done.
In fact, your most significant chapter hasn't even been written yet.
The Invitation
The 8-Week Protocol
This is not a course. It is a Sanctuary. A structured crucible to help you reclaim your identity, purpose, and clarity.
Phase 1: Deconstruction
Weeks 1-2. We strip away the "Success Trap" and identify the "Drift." You will confront the stranger in the mirror and define exactly what needs to change.
Phase 2: Reconstruction
Weeks 3-6. We rebuild your identity from the inside out. Core values, purpose, and the "New Operating System" for your second act.
Phase 3: Integration
Weeks 7-8. You lock it in. We build your "Personal Board of Advisors" and launch you into your next chapter with absolute clarity.
Phase 4: Community
Lifetime Access. You didn't come this far just to come this far. The true multiplier is our community. Weekly group calls. Real relationships. Honest conversations. Game changing takeaways.
Why I Built This
I’m John Little. For more than 25 years, I’ve developed corporate executives and leaders. But my passion isn't only helping people climb corporate ladders.
It's giving those same frameworks to everyday men so they can gain more clarity, more confidence and take their next steps with purpose.
I created The Leader in the Mirror because I lived it.
I woke up one day and realized I had to rebuild my identity from the inside out.
Mid 50's, single father with full responsibility for my son on the autism spectrum, separated from my dream job in a flash.
What I discovered was that I needed a hard reboot of my perspectives and my identity.
I needed to look in the mirror and see the leader I was made to be.
This is not about "crushing it" or "10x-ing" your life.
It's about re-defining and re-establishing your value, purpose, connection, and identity.
Voices from the Arena
Impact & Transformation
"John inspired me to reach forward and lean into challenges whether perceived or palpable with definite focus and kind determination. He is a trailblazer in the field... I see him as a guide and mentor on how to succeed through clarity, kindness and capability."
DK Igboemeka
Director of Real Estate, New York, NY
"There are leadership coaches who demonstrate subject matter mastery, can evolve and personalize important lessons, and create a personal growth experience for their students. My personal experience with John Little leaves no doubt that he is a member of the latter group."
Jason Fox
Senior Managing Director, Tampa, FL
Two Ways to Begin
The Conversation
Not sure if this is right for you? Let's hop on a 15-minute clarity call. No sales pitch, just a conversation to see where you're at.
The Commitment
Ready to stop drifting? Secure your seat in the 8-Week Protocol. Join the brotherhood and start your reconstruction immediately.
Frequently Asked Questions
Is this a 1:1 coaching program?
No, it's designed to meet men exactly where they are and provide insights, community and frameworks to create tangible results in their lives. While you get direct access to John and the frameworks, the power comes from the council of other men walking the same path.
Do I have to be divorced, had a job change or be a father to connect with this community?
Not at all. While many men in our community have navigated these specific transitions, the core experience of "The Drift"—feeling untethered, questioning your purpose, or seeking a deeper sense of identity—is universal. If you feel like you've checked all the boxes of success but are still asking "Is this it?", you belong here.
What is the time commitment?
We respect your time. The Protocol is designed for busy men. Expect to invest about 2-3 hours per week—including our weekly live council session and personal reflection time. It is not "homework"; it is life work.
Is this therapy?
No. Therapy is often about looking backward to heal the past. The Protocol is about looking forward to build the future. While we do deep internal work, our focus is on action, strategy, and creating tangible results in your life right now.
When does it start?
The Protocol is designed to meet men exactly where they are. You can begin your journey immediately upon joining. You will get instant access to the frameworks and the community, so you don't have to wait for a "start date" to begin changing your life.